I had lunch with a friend today that has just survived quite an ordeal and her life will never be the same. She is incredibly brave and has dealt with everything that has come her way with such grace and maturity, she is an inspiration.
Chatting to her today made me think about my friends I have now vs in my 20’s and the first half of my 30’s. I am blessed have some really wonderful friends that have been around for many, many years. And then I am super blessed to have made some really amazing friends in the last few years.
The kind of women you befriend as you get older are special in a different way. They may not have all that ‘dronkverdriet’ (sorry, there’s just no good English word) episodes to remember with you. Or fashion horros we never admit to. Or many late nights of whispered too-long conversations with parents complaining about the phone bill.
BUT. In your late 30’s when you befriend someone it is because you can’t afford not to be friends with them. You are drawn to them because there is a mutual learning and common ground beyond looks, money and status. You can almost skip all the shit and get straight to the good stuff. And hopefully some ‘dronk’ without the ‘verdriet’!
To all my friends, new and old: thank you for being in my life, you keep me sane!