My friend Leo and I went to the funeral today of the young wife of a school friend. She was 29. If you are new to this story, read some of my old posts and you will find reference to this.
It was terribly sad to say the least. I probably cried from beginning to end and I didn’t even know her. There were grown men around me crying. Even the Dominee was close to tears. She touched so many people, it was amazing.
I said the following to hubby this evening:
1. Cremation for me please
2. Absolutely NO sad music. No Celine, no Josh Groban, no church music, nothing sad. I’m thinking ABBA and some Gloria Gaynor.
3. No sad poems, some funny little limerick should do the trick
4. I want people to have a party. If anything happens to me please have a “memorial” in a beautiful place like a garden and tell funny stories about me. (those people I didn’t piss of that week anyway).
ps: These are just my thoughts on funerals in general, not this one in particular. Although I do want to share the poem with you, if is beautiful. I unfortunately don’t know who wrote it though.
When tomorrow starts without me
When tomorrow starts without me and I’m not here to see; if the sun should rise and find your eyes all filled with tears for me,
I wish so much you wouldn’t cry the way you did today; while thinking of the many things we didn’t get to say.
I know how much you love me… as much as I love you; and each time that you think of me, I know you’ll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand, that an angel came and called my name and took me by the hand
She said my place was ready in heaven far above; and that I’d have to leave behind all those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye; for all my life I’d always thought I didn’t want to die
I had so much to live for, so much yet to do; it seemed almost impossibly that I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays, the good ones and the bad; I thought of all the love we shared, of all the love we had.
If I could relive yesterday just even for a while; I’d say goodbye and kiss you and maybe see you smile
But then I fully realized that this could never be; for emptiness and memories would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things I might miss come tomorrow; I thought of you and when I did, my heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven’s gates I felt so much at home; when God looked down and smiled at me from His great golden throne
He said: “This is eternity and all I’ve promised you; today your life on earth is past, but here it all starts anew.”
“I promise no tomorrow, but today will always last, and since each day’s the same day, there’s no longing for the past”
“But you have been so faithful, so trusting and so true; though at times you did do things you know you shouldn’t do”
“But you have been forgiven and now at last you’re free; so won’t you take my hand and share my life with me?”
So when tomorrow starts without me, don’t think we’re far apart… for every time you think of me, I’m right here… In your heart