I have been doing a lot of thinking lately about relationships and whether people can change and whether I can accept the things about people that cannot change.
I believe that if you aren’t happy with something you must decide whether it is something you can change as that gives you some choices. And I like choices. Life is ALL about choices.
You can
- choose to try and change something you don’t agree with,
- you can accept that which you cannot change or
- you can simply move along from the thing or things that will not change and that you are not willing to accept.
Apologies if I sound vague.
Take work for example. I love that I get to meet people from all walks of life every day, I think I have learnt more about what our country really is about in the last 4 months than I have in my entire life until now. One of the biggest things I have realised is that the divide between Black and White is a LOT bigger than I thought it was. Probably because I never thought about it until now to be honest.
As much as some white people harbour animosity toward non-white people the reverse is also true. I am equally baffled and intrigued by this. I mean, I was probably ridiculously naive in thinking that if I treat someone with dignity and a smile they will automatically reciprocate.
So here’s what I’m going to do: win them over. One. By. One. Green, Black, Orange, Coloured, whatever. I reckon if I touch only 2-3 people a day and chip away at their perception it will make a difference somewhere along the line.
I CHOOSE to accept that this will bring about a change in whatever small a way. Imagine we all won only one person over a day what a massive difference it would make.
What do you think?