Grant me the serenity

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately about relationships and whether people can change and whether I can accept the things about people that cannot change.

I believe that if you aren’t happy with something you must decide whether it is something you can change as that gives you some choices. And I like choices.  Life is ALL about choices.

You can

  • choose to try and change something you don’t agree with,
  • you can accept that which you cannot change or
  • you can simply move along from the thing or things that will not change and that you are not willing to accept.

Apologies if I sound vague.

Take work for example.  I love that I get to meet people from all walks of life every day, I think I have learnt more about what our country really is about in the last 4 months than I have in my entire life until now.  One of the biggest things I have realised is that the divide between Black and White is a LOT bigger than I thought it was.  Probably because I never thought about it until now to be honest.

As much as some white people harbour animosity toward non-white people the reverse is also true.  I am equally baffled and intrigued by this.  I mean, I was probably ridiculously naive in thinking that if I treat someone with dignity and a smile they will automatically reciprocate.

So here’s what I’m going to do: win them over.  One. By. One. Green, Black, Orange, Coloured, whatever.  I reckon if I touch only 2-3 people a day and chip away at their perception it will make a difference somewhere along the line.

I CHOOSE to accept that this will bring about a change in whatever small a way.  Imagine we all won only one person over a day what a massive difference it would make.

What do you think?

3 thoughts on “Grant me the serenity”

  1. Oh yes! Now strange you should say this because a colleague (black) and friends (coloured) have both told me CT is far more racist than Jhb.

    I was suitably horrified.

    And this is black against others, and coloureds against blacks.


    I haven’t thought too much about it because I’m in denial that we’re not one happy country 🙂

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