Who carries the weight and a quick poll.

There’s something I’ve been wondering about for a while and I’m really hoping I will get it out right and not offend anyone (or that I haven’t already).

Here goes:

I’m forever going on about how fabulous my darling husband is and he really is (except when he is snoring at night).  He is just so much better at most things parenting than I am.  He feeds kids in the mornings and doesn’t lose his temper when there are last minute outfit changes or meltdowns.  He plans a menu for the week. He juggles cooking supper and keeping kids happy until I get home at night.  He cleans as he goes in the kitchen (big plus in my opinion, he even cleans up after me).  He mostly gets up at night, because I take happy drugs to help me sleep otherwise I won’t sleep and I won’t function.  He did poo.  He changed nappies.  He jumps on the trampoline.  He talks and listens to our kids.  He knows what movies they like and has seen them all with them whereas to me they are background noise.

In a nutshell: the man is a saint.

Here’s what I want to know: how involved is your husband/wife/co-parent?  Do they share the load or are you the one doing all the “admin”? I’m referring to all the things above (and parenting/life partner support in general) and it doesn’t matter that you might be a Stay at Home Parent, in fact your job is probably a lot harder to do because you cannot close an office door.

I’ve put together a poll, it’s anonymous, but I’m curious to know (as I’m sure you are) how much support our partners give us.  I’m hoping we will all be pleasantly surprised and even if the end result is sad I’m hoping it will make people like me that aren’t as involved as I should be think about it.

My fingers are crossed!

Ps: So clearly I haven’t blogged in a while.  I could complain about being too busy, but that would imply that I am busier than other people which could not be farther from the truth, so I’ll just keep it zipped.

Truth is I feel pressure to write and when I feel pressure to write I don’t, if that makes any sense.  It’s been quite liberating to not give in to the pressure of writing my self-imposed minimum of 2 blog posts a week and I’ve been spending some time thinking about next year and blogging, but I’m still thinking about it, so watch this space.

4 thoughts on “Who carries the weight and a quick poll.”

  1. I voted 3 but I wouldn’t say D is completely involved but he is also not completely uninvolved you know! His job doesn’t always allow him to be here for dinner/bath time etc but when he is here then he does help totally!!!

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