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People often comment on my ability to cope with 3 children, running a business, blogging and all the mommy and wife stuff that goes along with life. And still read books.
And every time someone does I feel like a complete FAKE.
Truth is, I have been trying to put my life in perspective lately and see how much I do and how much other people do (i.e. my long-suffering husband and the school). In reality it doesn’t work like that, because then I become a bean-counter of sorts (you know, I did this, so you must do that, tit for tat kind of stuff). And that’s not how our marriage works.
The only realisation I have come to is that we do the very best we can, every single day. We, as women and Moms, live in a state of constant guilt and self-flaggelation because we want to be everything to everyone AND then still have a little something for ourselves.
And, shock and horror, it doesn’t work like that. There really are only so many hours in the day and only so much we can achieve. We will live in a state of constant compromise and attempting to achieve a balance of sorts.
Sometimes we will get it right and sometimes we will shout because we are late in the morning.
BUT
when we get up the next morning we will once again commit to being the best we can.
Because, in the end, isn’t that all that really matters?
ps. I didn’t start this post off all serious, I am quite surprised at how it turned out. But hey, it’s done.
Could not have said it better myself. I get that feeling of FAKE when someone is in awe of all that we do. And some days all that we do just works, and others we become like Madam MADusa and the wheels feel like they are spinning in every direction. But being the best we can is all we can do. Love it!
I admire you immensely! I am having a real battle with the compromising at the moment. I try to do everything and it all ends up being half done! Hugs. xx
The best we can. I once read an article about being a “good enough” parent. Not super parent, not perfect, but good enough. It made sense and it very much falls with “best we can.” In the end, we could often be doing so much worse, or just give up, but we keep going and trying and doing the best we can.
P.S. Your “best we can” seems to be working, so count this as another compliment 😉
MWah!
I tell you, it is an affliction we all have!
You’re SUCH a keeper 🙂
People compliment you because you deserve it, because even though you may not get to do everything every day, you do most of the time and thats worth a compliment from me for sure!
Thank you!
What a profoundly true post! I do admire you greatly for how you manage but equally for how you ‘fess up to not being perfect. It makes me feel like there is hope for me! I can only be the best I can be – even if sometimes it feels like that isn’t good enough!
I admire you for handling 3 kids (and all the rest)! And I often wonder, did I do enough? But as you say, then it becomes tit for tat, and that’s just not how it works!
I like Suki’s comment about being ‘good enough’. I think we’re all good enough at any given time – and the good usually more than outweighs the bad!
awesome post! so true!
i agree with LL totally in that i always read your posts and admire the way you handle 3 very young children AND all the rest while i often struggle with my one … but also admire greatly that you admit to struggling at times 🙂 so when i find myself wondering how on earth i’m going to manage with 2 kids next year … i think of you and all the other blog mums on here and it gives me hope that i will manage … and be “good enough”! 🙂
Ah, you’re a great mama Tania, but just human like the rest of us!
Mwah, thank you!
But you’re wonderful LL! You should never underestimate how great you are!
And as long as we are trying!
You are amazing, you will do really well!!
But you are SO awesome!