Ramblings of a crazy person

I have been thinking a lot lately about friendships and how our concept of friendships change as we get older, get married and become parents.

I remember, at school and varsity and long after, if a friend had a problem you were able to drop everything, jump in your car and be able to go be with them.  It did usually entail several bottles of wine and many choice words about whatever the offending event/person was.  And a hangover the next day.

Then you get married and you aren’t always available as your partner then comes first.  You feel a little guilty for leaving them, but they understand if someone needs you.  So you go off to be with them, but all the time knowing that you need to be home at a certain time.

Then you have children and you are lucky if you are able to make a phone call to a friend in need.  And then, even if you are able to make the call you aren’t even sometimes able to talk to your friend as you have one child attached to a leg, another shrieking for attention and then you have to drag yourself across the room with the child already attached to your leg to rescue yet another one off the kitchen table.  Or interrupt yourself in order to shriek at one of them NOT TO KILL THEIR SISTER. 

So, if you are one of my friends that have been going through some stuff lately, and there are a couple of you, I’m sorry I wasn’t able to be with you in this crappy time as much as I have wanted to.  But know that I care for you very much, you are in my thoughts constantly and I send you only happy thoughts and good wishes.  This too shall come to pass and we will grow old and spend many days over well deserved glasses of wine to catch up on all the detail.  And then shriek at our children TO BRING US ANOTHER BOTTLE OF WINE!

8 thoughts on “Ramblings of a crazy person”

  1. How very true this is. I am looking forward to even a glass of wine, without an opinionated 10 year old telling me “you are going to get drunk Mum”. She could be right, it has been so long since I had one. 😀 xx

  2. Too true! I don’t even do phone calls any more – as soon as they see I’m on the phone they disappear out of sight and start killing each other (or go very quiet – then you know it’s BIG trouble).

  3. Dis presies hoe ek op die oomblik voel. Soms kan ek nie eens lekker saam kuier nie, wat nog van ondersteuning gee!

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