I have just read Sumanda’s post and it made me write this blog now instead of tonight.

I took Daniel for allergy tests this morning and he is nut, wheat and lactose intolerant.  Anyway, I had the tests done by a lovely lady in Sonstraal (Durbanville, CT) and she also gave me a list of natural stuff I could buy.  Needless to say I dashed off to Dischem at the speed of light 🙂

Whilst in Dischem I saw an old friend of mine I haven’t seen in about 5 years.  We grew apart for several reasons, I think mainly because she doesn’t live in my area and life just kind of happened. 

When I was pregnant with the girls, a mutual acquaintance told me that this friend had lost twins due to twin-twin-transfusion syndrome at around 19 weeks and I remember thinking at the time that I would love to contact her, but I felt like a bit of an ambulance chaser, especially because I was very far along and didn’t want to cause her any more pain.

She didn’t know that I had twins and when I told her she got tears in her eyes on the spot.  I really didn’t know what to say and just asked what happened and said that it probably is something that would stay with her for the rest of her life.  She agreed and said that she thinks about those babies every day of her life and will never forget them.  She has since had a little boy, but nothing will ever replace those babies.

Someone in my office also lost twins to TTTS when I was pregnant and it just really doesn’t make sense to me.  I don’t understand.

Even losing the unborn children stays with us forever. 

6 thoughts on “Loss”

  1. Every child is special and I know that the minute I was pregnant, I began bonding with my child. That’s why I don’t believe in abortions, in the end you are killing a little soul that God gave to you. I feel for your friend and I am sure God has the twins as one of his many angels who look over us…

  2. It’s tragic. All I can say it that yes the pain and longing stays with us. So sad. How to console such a friend? I dont know! Just be a friend I think! Enjoy your day!

  3. Sjoe, loss is such a dreadful burden. Sumanda gives brilliant advice on how to be a friend for someone who has suffered a loss.

  4. it does – I had an ectopic pregnancy, and even though it was so early on I was devestated.

    All you can do is hug your friend.

  5. I have a seriously allergic kiddie to.shes allergic to wheat,dairy,soya,nuts and can say its not too bad you learn to be creative.I also breast fed her for ever and rooibos tea was almost a staple.Now shes big its no better but she avoids most of them as they make her feel lousy.Losing a child is awful shame

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