One of my colleauges’ sister has just had a very sad miscarriage at 10 weeks and they are very worried about what they are going to tell their oldest, a 5 year old boy.
He has been really exited about his baby brother/sister and has been kissing her tummy every night and doing little prayers, asking God to take care of him/her.
What would you say to that little boy? What would be the best way to deal with it?
Aw shame man. Poor little dude 🙁 I’m so sad for him. Sorry I don’t have any advice – when I had a m/c we hadn’t told Tristan, so thank goodness we didn’t have to deal with this.
Hope someone has some words of wisdom – *hugs* to them!
Oh do so feel for your friend Tania. The poor little man will be very confused for a while. Hope someone has some words for you. xxxx
Wow, not easy. A friend of mine miscarried two weeks before her due date so her little fella had spoken to his baby brother (by name) and tickled him on a daily basis. My friend told her son that the baby was so very special that Jesus had fetched him to spend some extra time in Heaven with him and to help watch over his big brother. This was over two years ago and the big brother tells his new baby sister that their brother keeps an eye on them from heaven – very sweet.
Well, I don’t know if I am really one to comment, but I would guess, that keeping as close to the truth as possible, would be the right way to go.
Maybe tell him that God had important work for the baby to do in heaven, and relate to someone he might know has died as well – like a grandparent, telling him that the baby is with that person.
Shaim, how sad.
So sad, sorry no words of advice.
very sad … i like lynda and eevd suggestions about baby being so special God needed him for a special job …
poor family …
Very sad. Tell him the truth in language he understands.
Sad,hugs for friend…hope they come up with a way to tell him as close to the truth as possible
Am with EEVD and Lynda. Shame Tania… very sad.
With my mc, I just told my son the truth in a language that he understood and cried with him. Because he is a child he talked openly about his feelings and pain, and asked us about ours which forced us to bring that into the open and cry about it. A wonderful gift he gave us….
That’s very special!
nice suggestion
That’s very good advice, thanks so much!
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